Today is Tuesday, so this post in on Powerful Personal Impact.
The other day, Debra Benton sent me an e mail with a link to Donald Trump’s blog where an article she wrote on developing charisma was posted. I checked out the post and really like it. Debra makes some great points – all of them are common sense advice on developing not only charisma, but a powerful personal impact.
Read on for Debra Benton’s advice on how to develop charisma…
How to Develop Charisma: Twelve Key Moves -- Debra A. Benton
- Expect acceptance - Regardless of rank, expect to be treated as an equal. If you expect acceptance, you are likely to get it. If you don't expect it, you definitely won't.
- Control your attitude - Success is based more on mental attitude than on mental capabilities. Be optimistic toward yourself, others and life. Walk into a room with a spring in your step and a smile on your face.
- Perfect your posture - Lift your ribcage away from your pelvis, roll your shoulders back and down, pull your stomach in and tuck your bottom toward your spine. Breathe deeply. You'll not only look better, but feel more energized, alert and in control.
- Think before you talk - Think fast, pause, then speak purposefully. One CEO I know practices saying everything to himself before he says it out loud. That allows him to hear how it sounds so he can change it if he needs to.
- Slow down – People who talk too fast, move too fast, gesture too fast and walk too fast look nervous and scared. Scared people get passed over. Learn to speak in a comfortable, easygoing and welcoming way. Don't waste time, but speak as if you have all the time in the world for those to whom you are speaking.
- Shoot straight - Everything you say or write can be done in a simple, straightforward manner. Just do it.
- Be a good storyteller - People understand you better, remember what you say longer, and find you smarter and more interesting if you use anecdotes to make your points.
- Be aware of your style - Clothes don't make the woman or the man, but they do make a difference. Wear well-tailored, good quality clothes that make you look like you are in charge. But remember, it isn't as much about your look as how you look at things - and what people see when they look at you.
- Admit your mistakes - If you are error-free, you're likely effort-free.
- Don't be bullied - If you are unjustly criticized, don't take the bait and get into an argument. Instead calmly ask: "Why do you think that?" or, "What do you mean?" or, "What's that based on?"
- Be flexible – Simultaneously stand out while fitting in with the crowd.
- Be at ease with yourself and others - Look others straight in the eye, eliminate any defensiveness. Take the edge off your voice. Never let them see you sweat!
This is some great common sense advice from a woman who has coached many top CEOs. I know form first hand experience that Debra Benton knows what she’s talking about. If you adopt these principles, I can guarantee that you will become a person who makes a powerful personal impact.
That’s it for today. Thanks for reading. Log on to my other blogs: www.CommonSenseGuy.com for common sense advice on leading people and running a business, and www.CommonSenseDay.com to learn more about Use Your Common Sense Day -- November 4, and to read stories of common sense in action; and my website www.BudBilanich.com for more common sense.
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Bud
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